Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim…
The delay is too long. This would be the third part of my experiences in the Hijab Event in February. It was written together with others but was separated as I don’t want it to be too long.
After the sharing session between three panels was done, we had a Q&A session. Below is what follows :-
Question 1 : (A non-Malaysian Muslimah) Coming to Malaysia, why is there a lot of Hijabi with short sleeves.
Sister Wardina actually made a face of shame right about here and she is on the dot!
Answer : Sister Aliza stressed three points. Her points is that it is because of our culture. Growing up even most of the parents does not dictate their kids to cover themselves fully. We should implement the teaching of Islam on the children’s heart since the very beginning and, again, knowledge. Give them knowledge, then understanding and willingness will come.
Answer : Dr Fadila emphasize the important of doing a checklist before we got out of the house. Somewhere in the world, because of the culture it is very easy to fall out of our modesty. A funny example she shared whereby a lady that wears Niqab actually looking for eyeliner that can help her to have an ‘eye to kill’. As it is the only part of her that shown to the public. It’s worth mentioning as well that if we as a Muhajaba shares enough to the people out there why we are wearing this Hijab, it can be enough to change their hearts. Trust me If not today then slowly, tomorrow. Lead by example.
Question 2 : Relate being a Mujahaba and happiness.
Answer : In our head, we are happy when we show our beauty. It is embedded in our minds that way, not sure by whom or what. We should respect ourselves enough to not make others expectations as our guideline in life. Value our actions whether it is coming from our heart or what expected of you.
Question 3 : Tips to not be offended by the one that does not understand.
This question was given by my very special sister, Athierah.
Answer : Do not focus on them. Sister Aliza feels like she is ‘gliding through the streets’ when she experiments with a Niqab. It is very freeing. Dr Fadila stressed that this is a self-esteem issue. Remember the purpose of our actions, Allah. And by God, don’t take it personally.
*** Working in customer service, that is my mantra every single day. Do not take it personally.***
She adds that to change yourself for the better, Allah promised that there will be test. All we can do is try our best.
Surah Al-Balad, 90: 8-10 – Did we not make for him two eyes, and a tongue and two lips, and showed him, the two ways?
“Absolute comfort, without hardship is impossible in the world.” We should use what Allah has given to expand and upgrade our knowledge. Understanding is the key.